Mother’s day I reflected back to an especially dark season of my life over 20 years ago. Mother’s day came and went several times without sending so much as a card or making a call to my mom.
Having grown up like many others, with messed up families, I wanted nothing to do with my past or the people I perceived responsible for much of the darkness. I severed ties with my mom, cutting off all communication with her.
Breaking ties doesn’t necessarily fix problems. My husband and I exhausted one attempt after another in trying to fix ourselves. Whatever we tried, we always came up short.
We got to a point of desperation and decided to give God a try as a last resort.
Bit by bit our lives began to change. Our perspective became God and others focused. We went from hating and accusing to caring and forgiving.
Anger and disappoint gave way to hope.
Life change didn’t happen overnight. Often it was humbling and difficult. Over the course of several years, my relationship with my mom was restored and took on a new identity of health and goodness.
Not only did we get beyond the pain of the past, but today, we enjoy the present together with my mom. She is single and she lives with us; not because she has too, but because we’ve welcomed her into our family.
You may not want to have your mom live in the same house with you, but check your heart and ask yourself; is there a welcome place for your mother in your life?
What’s your relationship like? She won’t always be there.
People never regret saying things that are kind and full of grace, but we all regret if there comes a day and it’s too late.
You know the best way to reach out to your mom. Take the time to think about it. It doesn’t have to be costly or complicated. When it’s from your heart, she’ll know it.
“Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise —
“so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”
Ephesians 6:2-3 (NIV)